A post from a few weeks ago, Feminist Baggage: Patriarchy (on the limitations of the feminist concept of “The Patriarchy” as a tool for analyzing and dealing with gender inequality), received only one comment. Which I really appreciated. But because it was quite specific and detailed, and because my reply was the same, it kept getting longer, and longer, so I’ve taken the liberty of replying to it here as a new post.
The entire comment (which can also be found here), is quoted below. My response follows that.
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A comment on Feminist Baggage: Patriarchy.
May 16, 2013 at 12:44:07 PM
Well, that was “interesting”. I will be sure to hop on the next avaliable flight, and go tell a bunch of eleven year old femme prostitutes in pretty much any non-western country,(and many western countries) that it’s not REALLY men owning, and using them. Oh no, and the REASON this is happening is because of their poor PR skills, and the fact that they will not “divorce” the patriarchy (DIVORCE? consider the connotations of your lingual choices, please!). I will also be sure to explain to them that the very most important thing, is that they never ever make those poor poor men feel BAD about their lack of self analysis, or easy acceptance of their generally automatically assumed rights and privilege.
”It doesn’t matter how many times feminists insist that they and the movement are not anti-men, because even at its most vanilla, the language and imagery of anti-patriarchal feminism says otherwise. Literally. That’s how language and public relations work.”
If we do not have a system whereby one sex benefits over another simply by dint of visible secondary sexual characteristics, we do not NEED the term Patriarchy. But as we do not yet live under a rainbow in a golden castle of equality, it is an ACCURATE descriptor.
It is an ACCURATE descriptor, what are we to do, make up some nice new words, which will not offend delicate “masculine” ears, or challenge the patterns of behaviour of the WOMEN who find they benefit from appearing as the “weaker” sex?
Those “nice new words” will not be tolerated for long. Soon they will attract the same whinging and critique the word “Feminism” does.
I am a feminist, I am a feminist because we live in a society, (almost) globally, underpinned by and based on patriarchal ideals. I love men, I do not like the fact that men are slated for being stay at home dads, I do not agree with the frequent assertion that women are better suited to raising babies and men should “leave them to it” I like VERY VERY many things about men, and I strongly believe that the Patrichal system can be just as punishing for some men as it is for women (see, gay men in particular), A man (singular) is NOT the “Patriachy” he is a person.
I refuse to alter my use of words, to account for the ignorance and assumptions of others, instead I seek to educate. I refuse to play a public relations game, because it is one feminists can NEVER WIN, this is a massive part of the reason for negative connotations behind the very term Feminism, look back over old press reports of feminist demonstrations. No wonder so many men think we are man hating lesbians, the papers told them so.
Namaste.
Tori.
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Although I did say that I thought feminism has a PR problem and in that way the word “patriarchy” isn’t productive, I did not say we needed “nice new words,” nor did I refer to not offending “delicate ‘masculine’ ears” or anything about “never ever [making] those poor poor men feel BAD about their lack of self analysis, or easy acceptance of their generally automatically assumed rights and privilege.” Those are all your words, and a misrepresentation of mine. But in any case — the PR factor was my secondary point. My main point, in the first half of the post, is that the concept of “patriarchy” is insufficient for analyzing gender inequality.
So as far as PR goes, given (as you put it wrt male privilege) the “generally automatically assumed” meaning and acquired connotations of the word “patriarchy,” it isn’t worth taking even a minor PR hit as the price of continuing to use a conceptual tool that’s grown too dull and imprecise and exhausted to do the work being asked of it. In fact, something you said in your comment actually supports that main point.
In that post (as in others) I said the system that feminism refers to as “patriarchy” and “the patriarchy” is better understood and engaged as a system of essentialized gender. The essentialization of gender is not only the basis of patriarchy, it is also the basis on which that system insists on its own naturalness and inevitability and on the appropriateness and justness of its consequences. You draw that very same connection when you say:
I love men, I do not like the fact that men are slated for being stay at home dads, I do not agree with the frequent assertion that women are better suited to raising babies and men should “leave them to it”…..
In those words you’re offering a perfect example of the essentialist belief system. You go on to say:
I strongly believe that the Patrichal system can be just as punishing for some men as it is for women (see, gay men in particular)
Right. That system has punishing consequences for men as well as women. But the reason isn’t because the system is “patriarchal” but because the system’s essentialist definitions and assumptions of both women and men are so rigidly enforced as the one true and natural if not god-given way. If I’m reading you right, those are the “patriarchal ideals” you’re referring to. What I’m saying is, even though it once made an intuitive, self-evident sense to designate such an essentialized and idealized system as “patriarchal” because of how it had positioned men as dominant, in practice the term doesn’t get to the deeper root of the problem, which is the essentialization of gender, which is a more pointed and direct and modern conceptualization of the problems of gender inequality.
Gender essentialism IS gender inequality. It’s easy to see why and how that got labeled “patriarchy,” but I see no benefit in continuing to do so, and few benefits in having done so. Nor do I see that as a concession to “poor, poor men” — seeing it as that actually indicates just how problematic the term is:
Gender essentialism produces patriarchy, not the other way around. Continuing to globally frame essentialist social systems as “patriarchy” at this point only deflects pressure from the core of the problem while it diverts analysis down unproductive alleys and cul-de-sacs. And endless sloganeering.
When you say (correctly I think)…
…A man (singular) is NOT the “Patriachy” he is a person.
….it helps illustrate how that deflection and diversion work: Of course no singular man is “the Patriarchy,” but at what point do these individual men (even when in organized groups or disorganized gangs) come to constitute “the Patriarchy”?
I am not saying the system that gets designated “patriarchy” isn’t real or doesn’t exist, producing complex effects with many bad (read: disastrous) consequences. But as it’s been deployed the feminist conception of “the Patriarchy” all but requires (and through anthropomorphic metaphor all but establishes) the existence of an objective entity that willfully and arbitrarily defines and enforces a system of gender inequality for no reason beyond the cushy privileges it bestows upon men — if that’s not what it actually means, it’s still how the notion effectively functions, both within feminist discourse and out in the real world that feminism seeks to change.
Attributing the essentialist system to something called “the Patriarchy” invokes and practically demands a conspiracy theory, that no one seriously takes seriously, but that still colors and distorts both the analysis and politics of essentialized gender. How we name and label things shapes how we see them and how we think about them — that’s an idea that feminism, one of the culture’s preeminent critics and arbiters of language, surely subscribes to, and surely applies, or so I would hope, to its own terminology and greatest hits.
A vision of “the Patriarchy” has been functioning as a magnetic pole within feminist discourse pulling feminism (and the interests it is said to pursue) off course from a more direct and effective and also more radical engagement with gender inequality’s essentialist roots. I believe this is why feminist theory and feminist rhetoric have become so indistinguishable from each other, with the latter often standing in for the former, and the former too shaped by and dependent on the latter. That’s a formula for political ineffectiveness. That’s why as a movement feminism has made little basic progress in well over a generation and in some instances has lost ground, despite having had enormous influence — an influence that feminism’s rhetorical self-positioning against an all-powerful “Patriarchal” entity often leads (or requires) feminists to downplay rather than exploit. That downplaying shows up in the NEVER WIN in the following quote:
I refuse to alter my use of words, to account for the ignorance and assumptions of others, instead I seek to educate. I refuse to play a public relations game, because it is one feminists can NEVER WIN, this is a massive part of the reason for negative connotations behind the very term Feminism, look back over old press reports of feminist demonstrations. No wonder so many men think we are man hating lesbians, the papers told them so.
So the ignorance and assumptions of others understandably makes you “seek to educate.” Me too. But by what means?
There’s a serious incompatibility between seeking to educate and refusing to “play a public relations game.” Politics is public relations at nearly every stage, and public relations is education. If that’s a game that “feminists can NEVER WIN” then what are the winning feminist alternatives? Going door to door like Jehovah’s Witnesses or Avon Ladies to sell feminist principles? More Slut Walks and One Billion Risings? Blaming the media? Blaming the patriarchy? Blaming capitalism? Blaming the patriarchal capitalist media? Talking about how terrible “the patriarchy” is for the next 50 years as has for the last 50 years? Becoming an even more prolific lean mean meme machine?
The reason feminism needs to evolve beyond its patriarchal frame isn’t because it offends men but because that frame can no longer support a more contemporary and nuanced understanding of gender dynamics. Designating the gender essentialist system as “patriarchy” is itself an essentializing move (patriarchy is a term of patriarchy), and a feminism that traffics in essentialism is self-defeating — that’s how the state of “NEVER WIN” comes came about.
DIVORCE? consider the connotations of your lingual choices, please!).
I did carefully consider the connotations of my word choices, that’s why I chose them. I’m aware that the marriage/divorce metaphor is a tough one to swallow. But I think it fits and illustrates my point.
Feminism is wedded to its conception of patriarchy as a core explanatory device, and rotely refers to it to the point that it’s been fetishized not simply as an obstacle to progress but as an excuse for lack of progress and a readily available all around object of blame. The system feminism calls patriarchy is real enough and is indeed an obstacle (to feminism’s purported goal of gender equality), but in conceptualizing and anthropomorphizing the gender essentialist system as “the Patriarchy,” feminism has locked itself into a reactive and defensive posture that’s proven ineffective not only in advancing that goal but in consolidating and even recognizing whatever progress it has made towards that goal.
Thus my call for feminism to divorce itself from the old ball and chain of a concept as simplistic as it is exhausted. Patriarchal feminism is self-limiting and self-defeating. Feminism needs a new operating system. Evidence? The state of feminism today, especially if measured by something other than google analytics and self-deceptive surveys.
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Gender poster via Crimethinc. Found at Feministing on a search for “gender essentialism” pics.












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